Last night I started watching Ted Talks on communication and confidence. Much of it was the "fake it til you make it" model, which was pretty motivating because of the woman giving the speech who made her speech very relatable. She was talking about standing and sitting in power positions to present yourself as someone people respect. She talked about saying "I don't belong here" when she was given the opportunity to be part of an advanced education after a brain injury took away the "smart girl" persona she once had. She talked about how she faked it and made it, though it took her much longer than her colleagues.
Another speaker discussed how we tend to stockpile answers when in conversation. He suggested being spontaneous with your answers and your words. He gave different exercises to practice with to get to this place of presence. He mentioned taking an improv class to build this skill set as well. I really want to do this, or a drama club or voice lessons or toastmasters...something that brings me into another way of thinking and uses my voice. I need to practice actually speaking.
I was thinking today about how much I soak in the energy of my surroundings. I was in a kick ass mood this morning, so ready to have confidence with socializing and talking at work. But whenever I heard someone talking about the Dakota Access Pipeline or Christine talking about the struggles with Brendan and the kids or anything really heavy, I would feel the pain of these people in my chest. It would feel like a bag of sand laying on top of my lungs. I have to be careful to keep enough of a boundary that I don't take on other people's pain. I think I have to be more wary of this because I am so sensitive. It's tough to figure out the balance because I want to truly hear the people I'm speaking with and feel what they're saying, but I feeling it knocks me off my track and I can't do that.
One thing that was very clear was that I was completely high from my Zumba class yesterday. It was the best class I've ever been to and got my so hyped that I went to the reservoir to run a mile after the 90 minute class (in which I walked out with beat red face). But it helped me so much with my anxiety at work and socializing in that environment. I did completely crash after lunch time, but it was a good run. It definitely made me realize how important movement is for me. I want to take a look at MoveNat as well, mostly because I had a dream about it and I love playing with movement to fully connect with your body and the world around you.
I'm excited that I was guided to start listening to Christine Hassler again. She reminds me so so much of Brooke, and it's freaking awesome that I can learn from her 30 minute podcasts.
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